-- One Question That Will Save Your Marriage Did you know that there’s ONE question that you can ask your spouse that will improve your marriage almost instantly?
How’s it going, Brad Browning here… and I’m a marriage expert from Vancouver, Canada. In this video, I’m going to cover the one question that you can ask your spouse TODAY that will improve your marriage by leaps and bounds overnight.
In fact, if you ask this question every single day to your spouse, don’t be surprised if things change so dramatically that your spouse breaks down and recommits to you and your marriage.
So what’s the magical question?
It’s… “How can I improve your day?”
Let me tell you about a quick story about two clients of mine… Brian and Cindy. Every single day, they would argue about almost everything. It was almost as if they would pick fights for the sake of picking fights! And these arguments were no joke either… they would oftentimes scream and yell at the top of their lungs, often times even in front of their two kids.
Based on my initial meeting with them, I knew exactly what was wrong… and the problem that they experienced is an issue that’s extremely common -- and that is, they didn’t see each other as their “teammate”. See, in successful marriages, couples act as if they’re two players on the exact same team. They pinch hit for each other when the other can’t step up to bat, they’ll pass the ball to each other while moving up the court, and they function better TOGETHER than AWAY from each other. So whether you’re talking about something as simple as sharing the house chores, planning a trip, navigating their finances, or raising children, successful and happy couples make sure that they support one another no matter what.
But Brian and Cindy didn’t have this mindset at all. How could I tell that this was the case? Well, in my initial meeting with them, I heard them use the word “I” and “you” 92% more than they used the word “we”.
It was always… “I am doing so much work for you around the house” or “I can’t stand it when you won’t stick up for me!”
They were framing every single dispute as if they were always the victim… and that no matter hard they tried, they couldn’t get their partner to see them in the way that they wanted to be seen.
Now… Brian and Cindy aren’t unique. Again, I’ve seen this situation arise in couples all the damn time… and I know EXACTLY how to deal with it.
One of the very first things that I got them to was to begin with one of the most important strategies when it came to fixing a marriage… and it’s to SACRIFICE yourself for the greater good. I told them about that magical question about I mentioned in the beginning of this video…
I forced them, every single day, to start off the day with… “How can I improve your day?”
When they first started using this strategy, they admitted to me that it felt awkward for them. They didn’t FEEL like that the other person DESERVED any acts of service. In fact, initially, they felt like their partner deserved a good yelling instead of any acts of love…
But after a week of doing this every single day, things began to change…
Suddenly, Brian began felt feeling more relaxed every morning. He would wake up beside Cindy and instead of thinking about all the negative thoughts that he once had, he began to only think about improving Cindy’s day. He thought about it as a job that he had to do… or a duty almost!
The same thing happened to Cindy. She told me that after a few days, a great deal of pain, anger, and resentment began to lift from her chest… and she slowly began to feel EAGER to improve her husband’s day.
Over time, the arguments became less intense. They became less frequent… and their children began to notice and even they began to show levels of happiness that Brian and Cindy haven’t seen in ages. They effectively created a more loving environment that SELF PERPETUATED… and it all began with a simple question: “How can I improve your day?”
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